Emotions above logic
Research has proven over and over again that we make decisions based on our emotions – and not logic! Yes, we do apply logic in the decision-making process, but only after we had already decided and only to justify our decision in a way which makes sense to us.
This process happens within a split second. It can be therefore hard to acknowledge that our analytical and logical brain – the part of us which we trust to come up with great solutions leading to the best decisions – only kicks in when we have already decided.
So what does this mean?
The truth is that our beliefs govern how we feel about something. Wanting and truly believing that you can have what you want is life-giving. Wanting and doubting that you can have it feels horrible.
If your beliefs about what you can do, or what you want, are not aligned with what you desire you will subconsciously keep making decisions that are not allowing you to achieve it. You will choose not to speak up at that important meeting because deep down you don’t believe that people will take you seriously, that your contribution will make a difference or perhaps that you are worth the promotion you want.
Self-sabotage has to do with not truly believing in yourself. Stop suffering & start changing your beliefs!
Start noticing the patterns
If you are not getting the results that you want, revisit your past decisions. What are the patterns you can identify that are holding you back from making decisions that are aligned with your goals and aspirations?
Making the right decisions that lead you to getting what you want starts with changing how you feel about what you desire. If you feel joyous, frisky, excited and are expecting for things to fall into place, you are on the right track! However, if you feel negative, frustrated or doubtful, you don’t truly believe that things will work out. As a result, you will keep making decisions that give you results which are aligned with how you feel. And, of course, you will immediately come up with a million logical excuses why you took that particular decision.
Self-awareness is key. Start with noticing the patterns. Examine your beliefs. If you think of your goal or desire and you feel anything other than great, start working on your beliefs. The more you will say to yourself ‘I can’, ‘I’m worthy’ or whatever resonates with you, the more you will believe it. And the more you believe that you can have, be or do what you want, the more aligned/better decisions you will make.